DYING FOR SEX EPISODE 7 YOU’RE KILLING ME ERNIE: Love Heals (& Brings an Orgasm with Another Person)

Even grumpy Nurse Ernie knows (in Dying for Sex Episode 7, You’re Killing Me Ernie): Love heals. So, he (sort of) turns his head and begrudgingly lets Molly invite Neighbor Guy into her room after visiting hours to achieve “her goal.” Yes, Molly was rushed to the hospital in an ambulance that Neighbor Guy called in Dying for Sex Episode 6. The attendants gave her oxygen; she had a collapsed lung. Nikki hurried to be with her. Molly won’t give up on having an orgasm with another person before she dies. Yet, as we will see, sometimes the pressure of a goal isn’t what you need. 

Desperate Measures for a “Goal”

Molly is desperate. Nikki is, too. Both for the same reason. To keep Molly alive long enough to achieve her goal of an orgasm with another person, in Dying for Sex, Episode 7. And, when you’re desperate (and scared), you resort to whatever measures you can find. That goes for Nikki, too.

So, while Molly’s on a breathing tube and can’t talk, Nikki keeps her distracted by acting out Midsummer Night’s Dream among other things, all night long, manically. She says it’s for Molly, but it’s also to shake off her fear, sadness, and feelings of loss. Molly’s her best friend, after all.

And, Nikki’s especially terrified when Molly wants the tube out (how else can she achieve her goal?) But it’s helping her breathe, and there’s the risk that Molly might have “forgotten” how to breathe on her own. Plus, there’s a DNR – so basically Nikki has to say ok, she’ll let Molly die.

Nikki, to say the least, is freaked out. She’s not ready. Either is Molly. She hasn’t had her orgasm with another person (Neighbor Guy) yet. (Turns out, love is needed to feel safe enough to let go. Safe love. Not the love ruined by her abuser – or by Steve, who also thought first of himself.)

It’s touch and go for a few moments. At first, Molly gasps. They are all “breathing with Molly,” but everyone is holding their breath – Nikki, Sonya, and the very young doctor. It looks like the end. But finally, Molly takes a deep rasping breath. “Yay!” Everyone screams. Nikki kisses the young doctor. Everyone cheers Molly on: “Keep breathing …!” Then Molly cuddles Nikki, who needs it the most.

Desperate times call for creative measures. Death has been thwarted for now. But, how long?

Help to The Rescue in Dying for Sex Episode 7

Let’s start with the still awkward (but not so much) Dr. P. It’s a hard thing to tell a patient she’s close to death, especially for a doctor with feelings, even though he tries to cover them up.

After her collapsed lung, he tells Molly she needs a spinal tap to see if cancer has spread to the lining of her spine. She asks, “What will that mean?” He says, “We’ll have a conversation about continuing treatment.” That’s scary.  Quickly, he reassures Molly in Dying for Sex, Episode 7:

“I know you have certain goals, and I want you to achieve them safely.” “Oh, Jerry, you mean you want me to continue to have sex?” Jerry blushes: “I’m not made of stone…”

Nikki turns to the serious subject: “Your neighbor brought you here.” The object of love, not sex.

“I told him I love him.” “You did?!” “I want to see him. Right now. I want to touch his moustache.”

“I’m going home to get him right now. I’ll get your vibrators. Your lube. Oh. Come Night. Come, Romeo … I go. I go …(dancing.) I’m doing Shakespeare. I love Shakespeare and I go … Don’t die.”

To Nikki: “I won’t.” And, the ghost of Molly’s sexual abuser shows up. He sits in a chair. She glares: “What?!” Molly’s beginning to stand up to her abuser’s power, while Nikki talks to Neighbor Guy:

“So, there’s an evil nurse and a good nurse?” “Yeah, we need to get there before shift change …”

But Nikki’s car is getting towed with all Molly’s sexual paraphernalia … and Noah calls. Nikki answers in the middle of screaming at the tow truck driver. She admits: “I need help.”

“No Goals:” A Lover Who Gets You

Noah proves to be a very speedy helper. He arrives at the hospital and gives Nikki every vibrator he could find to be sure he got the right one. Sonya brings Molly lube. Molly asks her: “Are there any sluttier hospital gowns?” “Just turn it around. You know, easy access …”

Ernie, the Night Nurse, says, “No male visitors, no one is going to take advantage of you on my watch.” “Oh, Ernie, haven’t you ever been in love…? “None of your business …”

But … that softens Ernie.

There’s love energy between Neighbor Guy and Molly. He thinks her oxygen tubes are really “hot.” And, he bought her a “really expensive gift, hunted high and low, knows her feet get cold …” “Taco socks. I hate tacos. Didn’t think I could hate shredded lettuce more than I already do. And if they say, ‘Let’s taco about it’ … I’ll scream.” “Don’t look at the heel then.”

Molly fluctuates between demanding and softly and happily stroking the hair on his chest. Then: “Get on the bed. Oh my God, you’re so tall!” Neighbor Guy falls off the bed, yelling to Ernie: “She’s ok, I’m ok.” Molly tells Ernie, “He has a boner.” Ernie says he can stay that way until morning.

Yet, Ernie leaves the lovers alone in Dying for Sex, Episode 7.

Molly cuddles up to Neighbor Guy: “We’ve never kissed before.” “I’d like to kiss you.” They kiss.
“What if I can’t do anything but lie here?” Neighbor Guy, understanding what Molly needs: “Too many vibrators.  Molly tells him, “I think I’m just going to smell you.” Neighbor Guy loves that:

 “Yeah, too many goals. We live in a society with too many goals… Goals are dumb.”

To An Orgasm with Another Person

Neighbor Guy’s very turned on. But his goal is Molly’s goal: “We have to agree on one thing, you can’t have any sexual satisfaction tonight. It’s not medically safe. You absolutely can’t cum.”

“Oh, I agree … I’m too weak and too sick… but I don’t think I can let you cum either…” “Absolutely not.” Both are getting very turned on … “Why are you so hard right now?” “I’m not, that’s the railing.” “There’s a railing in the middle of the bed?” “Fuck…” Humor, in Dying for Sex, Episode 7.

As Molly becomes more and more turned on, Neighbor Guy teases. Stops. “No, not good for you.” “No, I forgot to play Wordle … I always start with gnome.” Molly: “I always start with fuck you.”

“You could try touching me. No, I don’t feel anything.” She instructs him on how to touch her. Finally, finding what she likes gets her more excited. He says, “Obviously, you’re the most beautiful thing that ever happened, but I’ve never liked that you don’t have lube in your hair. There, I knew it.”

She lubes his hair, too. They play and laugh, tenderly, like real lovers. The teasing – the NO GOALS (which means, no pressure of having to have an orgasm with another person) …helps.

Safe Love Is What Molly Needs to Heal …

Safe love stops sexual abuse triggers. That’s what happens to Molly. And, safe love is what (really) allows an orgasm with another person. Allowing love, loving someone, and letting them love you.

Molly’s abuser still tries to haunt her. But when she turns to kiss Neighbor Guy passionately, out of her love for him, she stops her abuser’s interference dead. He can’t ruin love for her anymore.

Now, Molly knows what she wants. And, she isn’t too shy to ask for it. She tells Neighbor Guy that she wants him to go down on her. Her abuser won’t ruin oral sex either (the way he abused her.)

You can only tell someone you trust what you want when you feel safe and don’t need control.

It works. Molly finally has her orgasm with another person! In Dying for Sex, Episode 7…

Love is complicated, though. Sometimes it means loving someone and needing to protect them. Molly loves Neighbor Guy so much that she doesn’t want to die with him; she wants to get a dog with him. She doesn’t want him to suffer, watching her die. He would be there, but she won’t let him.

No, it’s not just a “blip” for him, as she tries to tell him it will be. Real love is, well, real. Just as all of Molly’s feelings are.

And, safe love isn’t just any love. It’s the kind of love where you feel heard, seen, known, and completely accepted for who you are. That is the kind of love that heals.

Join Me Next Week for the Final Episode of Dying for Sex, Episode 8, It’s Not That Serious.